(there's so much I could add to this list - if there's something I've forgotten to list it's probably not intentional)
I'm just tired of being called a hypocrite because I don't support abortion - and no doubt there many who are, who don't care what happens after birth. But that is not me; I care very much what happens during, afterward and before. I try my best to walk my talk. I simply believe I'd rather see money and resources go towards everything else on my list and that I want to do what I can to end the reasons that make abortion seem like the best choice. My morals tell me that abortion is wrong, but at the same time my senses tell me that we'll never convince people that it's not necessary without working fix the issues that surround it.
I try not to harp about the politics - legal or illegal - because I realize that legality doesn't change our current realities. Do I understand why this is legal? Yes, I do. Do I understand that without changing the cause legality wouldn't change anything? Yes, I do andI want to change the problems so that the legality becomes a moot point.
I want to work towards a world where we don't need this - a world where a family doesn't have to choose between a child and poverty, where a woman doesn't have to choose between a child and her education, a world where we continue to work towards improving quality of life for those medical complications and a world where rape and domestic abuse are a distance memory. Is it going to happen in my lifetime? No, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't try. Do we have a long way to go? Absolutely, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't try.
If we disagree on this issue I don't think you're horrible. If you've chosen this path I don't think you're evil. I've been on both sides of this fence. I've sat next to friends as they've chosen from the options available to them. I work in the medical field. I know that your heart is in the right place and I just want you to know that mine is too.
If I never see the politics change I can live with this. The best way I can live is that any man or woman who comes to me in with an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy - whether it's my best friend or one of my children - knows that they can find support and love from me for them and the child.
I want you to know that if you came to me right now in a difficult situation - an unplanned pregnancy, a bad prenatal diagnosis, an abusive relationship - that I will do everything in my power to help you. I would want to find the best way to support you and your child through this, in a way that respects both your needs and your child's life. I want you to know there are many ways to get help - there are many more clinics out there that provide services on a free and sliding payment scale. There are resources for food, clothing and housing. There is support for the realities of your child's diagnosis and there are families waiting for this child if it's the best choice for both of you.
*****I'm more than happy to engage in respectful dialogue on this issue, but I'm trusting my commenters to be able to keep things civil and respectful. If you have a question, but do not want to ask in the comments you can email me at mollymakesdo at gmail dot com *****