The Doge meme basically writes itself.
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But Molly, you're a hip mom who crafts homemade Montessori materials and bakes muffins, how could you undermine the revolution?
Well, after much consideration I finally had to admit something. We like watching movie, and television shows and YouTube videos. We actually enjoy doing those things in each others company and sometimes quality family time comes in surprising ways. Like when your four year is introduced to Lego Movie and is suddenly much more interested in building things, and Lego books and superheroes. Or when you dance around like a giddy fool to that song at the end of Tangled with said family because it just makes you happy. Or you and your husband stand around the kitchen for a solid hour mapping out the plot to the next Avengers movies. It can be a shock: we're spending time, talking, reading books and playing with these toys because of media.
We, as a family and as a married couple enjoy media. My husband and I love theatre, concerts, movies, comic books and so much more together and a big facilitator to that in this stage of life are coming from screens. Our regular date nights revolve around dinner and a movie or a pizza and catching up on a t.v. series - that is what we enjoy doing together. It facilitates laughter and tears and hours of conversation.
To us a good movie or a quality T.V. show isn't just a way to mindlessly erase a few hours. What we watch we do so because we appreciate the writing, or the acting or the costumes or the skill of the animators or designers. Being the artistic, theatre loving, spectacle understanding people we are that media is actually a part of our personalities and how we relate as a couple and how we hope to relate as parents and child. The idea of not sharing my husband love of superheros or my love of animation with each other would be strange. When I was a kid there wasn't a lot of theatre around in my towns so you know how it first started to interested me? Movies; filmed versions of musicals and stage shows and Cirque du Soleil that lead me down a very artistic, skilled career.
And I'll let you in on a little secret. I think movies and the occasional T.V. series are the lesser of the media evils right now. When I was a kid we obsessed about the length of Saturday morning cartoons and now kids can literally be plugged into non-stop entertainment. When I see a child glued to a screen out in public, with a tool that requires very little skill to manipulate that half hour of T.V. doesn't look so bad.
So what do we do to make sure it doesn't rule our lives? We set limits and have rules.
- The television is in our basement away from regularly used areas of the house.
- Computers and phones are for adult use only - no children's game or learning tools on them.
- T.V. is something that can be earned and taken away, sometimes for days, for bad behavior. It's not a given.
- No extra screens like I-pads, "learning toys" or screens in the car.
- Most T.V. time is limited to either first thing in the morning or "when it gets dark", and often involves a barter about what he can or cannot watch now and later.
- There are still limits on what or what not can be watched around or by the younger member of the family.
- We look for movies and shows that encourage discussion, finding books to read or different kinds of play when the television is off. If it's not encouraging one of those things we're probably not watching it.
There are some amazing families that go totally screen free and that's amazing, and most likely that's exactly what their family needs. There are amazing families who don't limit screens as much as we do; their different limits fit their families or something like a I-pad that's a toy for some might be a crucial tool for a child. Not all technology is evil and I try to remember this when I see those screens at a restaurant or in the store - I always try to give the benefit of the doubt even if it wouldn't work for us.
So if you enjoy the occasional show or movie, and have found a way for it not to turn your children into ravenous screen junkies. Huzzah! We're kindred spirits.
Now I'm off to watch a movie with my boys, cuddle on the couch and do some knitting.