Then there's this article floating around out there, and, I'm sorry, it's just asinine, narcissistic drivel.
I could go on about how most people I know completed the worthwhile parts of that list married and had a blast (cake mix, nutella... naked? Sounds like a good weekend in the married world to me). I could go on about how boring her goals are. I could go on about how doing a good portion of that list repetitively will only set a person up to be that "Crazy Cat Lady With the Embarrassing Past Who Buys Nutella and Boxed Cake Mix in Bulk". But I want to be civil, so I'll keep things simple here.
1) It's great to know, particularly at a young age, if you are ready for a commitment like marriage.
2) It's great to take marriage seriously because not doing so will only make your life messy and painful down the road.
3) It's great to decide you are ready to make that commitment.
4) It's better if you realize now that it's not for you.
However, none of the above at any age is a good reason to act like a fool. Those early 20's were a time of stupidity and selfishness on my part. I have learned from them, but I hurt a lot of people along the way and I'm not proud of that. However, everyone will make mistakes and to an extent that's good and a normal part of life.
I will tell you this, once you get out of the college years (about 18-22) and you're still acting like you're an inebriated college girl with no thought to the consequences of her actions the opinions and sympathy will start to take a steep nose dive for every year you're out of school. By the time you're on the other side of your twenties, in only 2 short years, behaviors that were cute and risque at twenty just start to look pathetic. That's the gospel truth and I'm sorry if it hurts.
However, that has nothing to do with your marital status so here's another gospel lesson....
The excitement in your life has nothing to do with your relationship status and everything to do with your personal choices. Some people get their thrills out of their lone wolf adventures and some people enjoy having someone else around to take pictures with, but their adventures can be just as exciting as long as you choose to do something interesting with the time you're given.
And I'm sorry honey, at 23 no matter what, you have better things to do than sitting around watch reruns of anything while eating ridiculous amounts of Nutella whether you're single or not.
I have and will continue to advise people that if you feel you're at a time in your life where you feel like you can't consider another person equally to your self, if you feel like you need some time to be "selfish" than that is a good nugget of wisdom coming from your personal Jiminy Cricket. You should always listen when that is your conclusion. Go be wild and adventurous without another person to consider if that is what you need, but don't rain on anothers parade if they're in a different spot in life than you.
So whether you are a Lone Wolf or a Dynamic Duo at age 23 I give you my list of things you should be accomplishing while you still have a chance that you'll never regret.
- Move to a new city - the one you've always wanted to live in - if only for a year.
- Dip your toes in as many bodies of water as you can - ponds, lakes, rivers, oceans.
- Volunteer for something that will push your boundaries and shake you to the core.
- Constantly try to find your "thing"; you'll never find it, but it's the journey that's fun.
- Live on a small income and enjoy it.
- Act ridiculous with your favorite person in public - with or without alcohol.
- Announce one morning "Let's go on an adventure".
- Announce one evening "Let's go on an adventure".
- Explore your faith and explore the faith of those around you.
- Get a passport and actually use it for something more exciting than an international bar hop.
- Find out who your real friends are; keep the good and toss the bad.
- Make a list of concerts and shows you want to see and see them.
- Make a list of foods you want to try and eat them.
- Make a list of places you want to go to and get there.
- Make a list of books you want to read and read them.
- Buy an amazing pair of shoes and do something amazing in them.
- Find that dress, that suit, those pants, etc. that makes you feel truly confident.
- Find something - a picture, a quote, a song, anything - that inspires you.
- Set goals, constantly.
- Do something that pushes you to the limits physically.
- Do something that pushes you to the limits emotionally.
- Let yourself cry, a lot.
- Let yourself laugh, a lot.
- Realize that, most likely, you have years to do all of the above and life will not be over if this list is not done by age 24 or by the time you get married.